Hi Reader,

At the weekend, I did something I absolutely loved - and I've been paying for it

My son's brass band was competing at the Whit Friday Brass Band Competition at the weekend.
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If you don't know it, it's this wonderfully chaotic Lancashire and Yorkshire tradition where bands travel between villages around Manchester and Huddersfield, playing in competition after competition, jumping on and off coaches all day long.

It's brilliant. It really is. Sun out, bands playing, crowds cheering.
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One of those days that reminds you that life can be genuinely lovely.

And the day after? I was absolutely wiped out. 🥱

Not tired in the way a good night's sleep fixes. That deep, bone-level drained that's almost impossible to explain to someone who hasn't been there.

This is spoon theory in action - and it's something I think a lot of us know all too well.

So what is spoon theory?

Spoon theory is a way of describing limited energy. It was originally used by people with chronic illness to help explain to others why they can't "just push through."

The idea is simple: you start the day with a certain number of spoons.
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Every activity costs you one. When they're gone, they're gone. And if you overspend? You wake up the next day already in deficit.

Here's what used my spoons at the weekend:

🥄 Heat and direct sun - a big one for me
🥄 Being on a coach all day (travel sickness vibes, even when it's mild)
🥄 Moving through busy crowds with no chance to step back
🥄 Eating on the hoof - grabbed food, not what I'd normally eat
🥄 No opportunity to pace myself or take a breather

None of those things sounds dramatic on its own, does it?

But stacked together, over a full day, with no let-up? All the spoons. Every last one. Gone.

The thing that really struck me was looking around that coach at the end of the day.

Some people were still going - still out, still standing in the sun, still absolutely fine at half ten at night. Ancient, wizened Yorkshiremen marching up steep hills with heavy instruments, sinking pints, cheerfully unbothered by any of it. 😆

Same day. Same sun. Same crowds.

And I was fast asleep in the car before we'd even left the car park. 🙈

That is not a failing.

I need to say that clearly - because I'm as guilty as anyone of that little voice that whispers "I should be able to keep up. I'm such a lightweight."

But those people simply started the day with more spoons than us. And they still had plenty left when we were running on empty. That's not a character flaw. That's just the reality of living with a thyroid condition.

What this means for us in practice

Spoon theory looks different for everyone. What drains you completely might barely touch someone else - and vice versa. For a lot of us with thyroid conditions, the things that seem perfectly fine to other people hit very differently.

A warm day. A long journey. A big crowd. Disrupted eating.
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These aren't excuses - they are genuine energy costs, and they add up.

Key takeaways:

✅ Know your personal spoon drains. Not the generic ones - yours. The things that sound mild to others but cost you significantly. Write them down if it helps. Take them seriously.

✅ Stack awareness, not guilt. When multiple drains happen in the same day, the effect isn't just added - it compounds. Knowing this in advance helps you plan rather than crash.

✅ Build in recovery without the self-criticism. A rest day after a big day isn't laziness. It's paying back an energy debt. It is as important as the activity itself.

✅ Let go of the comparison. Other people's spoon count is not your benchmark. You are not failing because someone else can do more. You are doing something genuinely hard, every single day.

Today, I'm paying that energy debt back. Chill day. No guilt. ❤️

And honestly? That's the moral of the story.

We cannot pour from an empty cup - but we also cannot keep punishing ourselves for having a smaller cup than everyone else.
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Learning what costs us energy, planning around it where we can, and giving ourselves real recovery time without the guilt - that is not giving up.
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That is taking care of yourself in the way your body actually needs.

The brass band was absolutely worth it. 😍

I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

But next time, I'm building in a recovery day and packing a proper packed lunch. 😄

With love

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